Defining Projection and why it matters

When I’m the most infuriated and frustrated, it usually has less to do with what Rob is actually doing, and a lot more about the story I’m telling myself in my head.

 

Though in the moment, while it’s infinitely easier and more compelling to blame him… being able to see what I’m projecting will ultimately bring the shift I really want.

 

What’s projection, and why does it matter?

 

It’s where we are seeing the world though our unique and personal perspective, and then we project that onto the world as the whole and only truth, it’s so much a part of us, we are not even conscious we’re doing it. Then if others that are acting in opposition to that truth, we feel like they are actively opposing us, and we can feel hurt, angry, threatened and reactive.

 

Being able to become conscious of our projections is how we can start to untangle ourselves from their hold. 

 

Join me to find out more about projections, and my unhealthy relationship with scrubbing toilets. 😉

That’d be great if you could…and other ways we avoid genuinely asking

If you have time could you pick up some milk on your way home?

 

What’s wrong with asking our partner like this?

 

Well it’s not actually asking. It’s a way of expressing what we want… with an exit strategy to avoid the potential pain if our partner says no.

 

Why do we do this? Because it’s vulnerable to ask… they could say no… and that’s a trigger for almost all of us.

 

When we avoid the genuine ask, we avoid the vulnerability, but we also rob ourselves of the potential for more open loving connection, gratitude and creating the safe container to share our deepest desires and dreams together.