If you have time could you pick up some milk on your way home?
What’s wrong with asking our partner like this?
Well it’s not actually asking. It’s a way of expressing what we want… with an exit strategy to avoid the potential pain if our partner says no.
Why do we do this? Because it’s vulnerable to ask… they could say no… and that’s a trigger for almost all of us.
When we avoid the genuine ask, we avoid the vulnerability, but we also rob ourselves of the potential for more open loving connection, gratitude and creating the safe container to share our deepest desires and dreams together.