Releasing Reactivity Practice: How to return to grounded connection in times of stress

As we navigate the most stressful global events of our lifetime, how can we meet these challenging times with the calm presence to respond to circumstances, emotions and events as opposed to flying off the handle and panicking.


Reactivity erodes relationship trust and stability. While no one is immune to reactivity, we can learn to improve our way of responding to stressful situations.


Here is an exercise to practice with your partner (or kids or parents, whomever you’re in quarantine with) to practice speaking about a topic with some charge to it and coming back to calm objectivity.


If you have any questions or comments, please share them with me, and I will answer your questions (or any relationship questions) every Tuesday at 9:00am on FB LIVE.

Meeting Challenging Times with Grace and Courage

How do we meet with chaos with courage?


In light of the COVID-19 being declared a pandemic, putting out my regular content this week, felt completely hollow.


Most of us have been living in delusion of independence and control. I’m afraid the startling reality of our vulnerability and interdependence is upon us.


How we choose to meet with uncertainty of an unprecedented scale will drastically affect all of us.


I wanted to speak to what it is here, what is inevitable, and where we are at choice in how we show up and who we want to be in the face of these challenging times ahead.

Relationship Dynamics – Explained

Are you looping in the same argument over and over?


Do you ever find yourself frustrated and misunderstood in your relationship? The more you push the harder your partner is pushing back? You could be locked in a relationship dynamic.


This weeks’ vlog is about better understanding how we can get sucked into these repetitive patterns and how our efforts end up getting us the exact opposite of what we really want. Find out how to spot and disentangle yourself from dynamics that are undermining your relationship right now. 

Definition Series: Relationship – explained

“Relationship” explained…


Culturally we tend to view relationship as something we acquire, like a furnace with a great warranty… something that’s supposed to hum along without much attention… this expectation leaves us ill prepared for the very normal fluctuations and evolution of our relationships. Find out a better foundation to start from in this week’s vlog.


Relationship is the first in a new series defining relationship terms. I wanted a resource for to explain the deeper meaning of relationship terminology that has become distorted with overuse, or how some more complex terms can apply to our relationships every day.


Are you addicted to busyness?

It’s taken a long time for me to untangle my compulsion for busyness, perfection, never saying no, over-giving, over-committing to the point of exhaustion and martyrdom.


Our culture values hyper achievement, productivity and consumerism, fueled by our fear of missing out. It is almost impossible to NOT get swept up in the ever-increasing velocity of our day-to-day lives.


While we may believe our busyness is only having an impact on us, it takes its toll not just on our own peace and sense of well being, but on our ability to be present and connected with anyone in our lives.


This vlog is about understanding why we are so drawn to busyness, its origin, pay-off and the steps to becoming disentangled from its siren song. 🙂


7 tips for better sex in your long-term relationship

When we have been together with the same partner for many years, we seem to flip flop from feeling deficient, like we should be having amazing sex and we aren’t, and resignation, like having inspiring, exciting sex is just a thing of the past.


A lot stems from a belief that sex should be “natural”, and it’s either good, or it isn’t. Instead of sex being, like anything else, more of a practice. Something that you get out of what you put into it.


I remember listening to Dr Christiane Northrup talk about women in menopause having the best sex of their lives, she joked that it was usually with a new partner… only to explain that you need to become a new partner.


We can get lulled into comfort in our long-term relationships. When we are willing to open up to re-inventing ourselves and seeing our partner in a new way, it can fling open the doors to new levels of intimacy and ecstasy.


Enjoy these seven tips to breathe new life into your long-term relationship.


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