Defining Projection and why it matters

When I’m the most infuriated and frustrated, it usually has less to do with what Rob is actually doing, and a lot more about the story I’m telling myself in my head.

 

Though in the moment, while it’s infinitely easier and more compelling to blame him… being able to see what I’m projecting will ultimately bring the shift I really want.

 

What’s projection, and why does it matter?

 

It’s where we are seeing the world though our unique and personal perspective, and then we project that onto the world as the whole and only truth, it’s so much a part of us, we are not even conscious we’re doing it. Then if others that are acting in opposition to that truth, we feel like they are actively opposing us, and we can feel hurt, angry, threatened and reactive.

 

Being able to become conscious of our projections is how we can start to untangle ourselves from their hold. J

 

Join me to find out more about projections, and my unhealthy relationship with scrubbing toilets. 😉

Defining Projection and why it matters

When I’m the most infuriated and frustrated, it usually has less to do with what Rob is actually doing, and a lot more about the story I’m telling myself in my head.

 

Though in the moment, while it’s infinitely easier and more compelling to blame him… being able to see what I’m projecting will ultimately bring the shift I really want.

 

What’s projection, and why does it matter?

 

It’s where we are seeing the world though our unique and personal perspective, and then we project that onto the world as the whole and only truth, it’s so much a part of us, we are not even conscious we’re doing it. Then if others that are acting in opposition to that truth, we feel like they are actively opposing us, and we can feel hurt, angry, threatened and reactive.

 

Being able to become conscious of our projections is how we can start to untangle ourselves from their hold. 

 

Join me to find out more about projections, and my unhealthy relationship with scrubbing toilets. 😉

Releasing Reactivity Practice: How to return to grounded connection in times of stress

As we navigate the most stressful global events of our lifetime, how can we meet these challenging times with the calm presence to respond to circumstances, emotions and events as opposed to flying off the handle and panicking.

 

Reactivity erodes relationship trust and stability. While no one is immune to reactivity, we can learn to improve our way of responding to stressful situations.

 

Here is an exercise to practice with your partner (or kids or parents, whomever you’re in quarantine with) to practice speaking about a topic with some charge to it and coming back to calm objectivity.

 

If you have any questions or comments, please share them with me, and I will answer your questions (or any relationship questions) every Tuesday at 9:00am on FB LIVE.

Meeting Challenging Times with Grace and Courage

How do we meet with chaos with courage?

 

In light of the COVID-19 being declared a pandemic, putting out my regular content this week, felt completely hollow.

 

Most of us have been living in delusion of independence and control. I’m afraid the startling reality of our vulnerability and interdependence is upon us.

 

How we choose to meet with uncertainty of an unprecedented scale will drastically affect all of us.

 

I wanted to speak to what it is here, what is inevitable, and where we are at choice in how we show up and who we want to be in the face of these challenging times ahead.

Relationship Dynamics – Explained

Are you looping in the same argument over and over?

 

Do you ever find yourself frustrated and misunderstood in your relationship? The more you push the harder your partner is pushing back? You could be locked in a relationship dynamic.

 

This weeks’ vlog is about better understanding how we can get sucked into these repetitive patterns and how our efforts end up getting us the exact opposite of what we really want. Find out how to spot and disentangle yourself from dynamics that are undermining your relationship right now. 

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