What led me to this work?
My fondest memories of growing up were running wild and free… living on the edge of the city, I would explore ravines, parks, dead-end streets and anywhere undeveloped. Lost in nature for endless hours, coming home when the street lights went on, I was so connected to nature, my body, my innate inner wisdom. Life was timeless – I felt free.
As I got older I learned to override my intuition and count on my mind. Struggling to belong, I became a chronic performer, chameleoning myself to fit in with whomever I was with. Timeless freedom dissolved into a relentless, grinding marathon of control, perfection, more and better… do better, get better, be better… never enough.
Finished high school at 17, I bolted to University 3000 kilometers from home to study Psychology. Straight into the corporate world, I worked in the oil industry, landing a job in logistics and expediting in the new frontier of newly dissolved USSR, Russia.
I met my husband-to-be one weekend in the tiny mountain town of Banff and longed to create a job that would have me living there. Leaving the corporate cocoon to venture into entrepreneurship, I started a local Arts and Entertainment newspaper.
It was a steep learning curve in journalism, editing, graphic design and sales. Two and a half years later I sold the paper and took on the job of “super mom”, eventually having three kids’ schedules to juggle, a home-based graphic design business, and just about every single Playschool, Kindergarten, Elementary School, High School Parent Board, Council and Fundraiser you can imagine.
In the blur of getting kids between skating, dance, hockey practice and swimming lessons, I gave up graphic design for painting and worked as a professional artist before connecting with my passion of life coaching.
I had a wonderful artist friend that had started life coaching and was looking for clients. Having no idea what I was getting into, it became strikingly clear that it was exactly what I needed. It was at the time when we were considering moving from our home in Banff, where we had strong family connections and deep roots in the community.
Having a life coach continue to reflect my deepest truth even in the face of a very vocal opposition was transformative. It didn’t take long after the move for me to think, damn… THAT’s what I want to do.
I started a loooong line of courses, certifications and working with clients. While the work was tremendously fulfilling, there was nagging feeling of something buried even deeper that I wasn’t able to access. I delved deeply into emotional fluency, ego mastery, yoga teacher trainings and a sex, love and relationship certification, literally thousands of hours of courses, workshops, readings, client hours, practices and meditation to come up against the truth that our greatest learning is relational.
Ultimately there is only so much we can do on our own, as individuals. Our deepest truths are reflected through our relationships with others, with nature, the divine and most importantly, our bodies and ourselves.
There is so much richness embedded in our long-term relationships. Ultimately the learning that we can access through looking deeply at who we are in our relationships give us the keys back to our innate freedom, ease and timeless passion.
Our partner holds these keys for us, and we hold them for our partner.
I would be honoured to support you in unlocking the treasures that reside in your relationship. <3
What I know for sure
While I don’t know about the proverbial “soul-mates”, I know for sure if that if you have invested a number of years into a relationship, you have a soul connection. Whether your relationship lasts forever or not, the fact that you have been drawn into each other’s lives means there are some primal roots to the attraction. There is a deep well of learning available to you should you wish to pursue it… with this person or the next one.
What attracts us to our partner has primal and unconscious layers. There is a combination of both the best and worst traits of your primary caregivers in your partner, as well as lost aspects of yourself. We are drawn to these people to ultimately reveal and heal our unmet needs and wounded aspects of self.
Yikes… seriously – that seems really deep? I just thought he was cute and funny, and I loved the way he looked at me.
Yes, seriously. The things that drive us crazy about our partner are the very things we won’t accept in ourselves. The relationship will constantly reflect your greatest opportunity for growth and learning. Our relationship triggers our deepest aspects of self.
When we are willing to grow together in this way, we can attain higher states of love and connection. It’s a return to wholeness, freedom, ease and divine bliss. This kind of sacred love is available to all of us if we are willing to open to receive it.
BA – Psychology | University of Western Ontario – London, Canada
Certified Professional Co-Active Coach, CPCC | CTI Coaches Training Institute ICF Recognized – CA, USA
Coaching Happiness | Robert Holden – CA, USA
Co-Active Leadership Program | CTI Coaches Training Institute – CA, USA
Great Story Coaching Program & Coaching the Great Story | Lucid Living – CA, USA
Equine Assisted Learning Facilitator Training, Levels 1 & 2 | Equine Connection – BC, Canada
RYT-200 Yoga Teacher Training | Blissology Yoga – Santa Cruz, CA
Emotional Fluency, Ego Mastery & Evoking the Sacred | Lucid Living CA, USA
Yin Yoga Teacher Training | Semperviva Yoga – Bernie Clark – BC, Canada
VITA Certified Sex, Love & Relationship Coach | Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality – Layla Martin – CA, USA
VITA Certified Relationship Couples Coach | Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality – Layla Martin – CA, USA
VITA Certified Jade Egg Coach | Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality – Layla Martin – CA, USA